Humanitarian Socionics

Conflict relations - Intertype relations in Humanitarian Socionics

A conflict relationship is a relationship of an underlying conflict. The degree of psychological compatibility in these relationships is the second lowest (after super ego). However, this is not immediately noticeable. The conflicter attracts rather than repels. They admire the development of those traits of character that are weak in you.

In a conflict relationship, contact and rapprochement are initially possible for both. But something always goes wrong along the way. Considering why these attempts to find a common language fail, you come to the conclusion that the reason for the misunderstanding is not so significant, easily eliminated. It seems it only takes a little more effort and understanding will be achieved. Involuntarily, the desire to somehow win the person over is pursued. However, these attempts are nothing more than walking on the edge of the abyss. There is always the danger of falling into it — of being drawn into fruitless, exhausting arguments. Moreover, in these quarrels, the conflicters often verbally hit each other in the most painful places. The conflicter always wants to prove something, clarify, finish-and he, as luck would have it, does not want to understand you. This causes a dull internal irritation or nervousness over time in a conflict relationship.

The worst thing is that partners who are bound by conflict relations do not have mutual assistance in practice. They do not protect each other at all against an attack from outside. This does not mean verbal defense, but the ability to do for the partner that part of the work that the other clearly cannot do; one conflicter can’t account for the other’s weak functions. The lack of security is particularly acute in a hostile external environment. Parting with the conflicter after long attempts to find a common language, you feel relieved.